Helping Yourself - by Helping Others

What does that mean to you?  Does this mean only the obvious?  Or does this mean trying to be of service - INSTEAD of judging others, criticizing or complaining?  If you are judging others, you probably need some help as well!  By opening your mind, your heart and your attitude - you can actually be of assistance not only to someone else but to yourself as well!

Your judgment is often what you really feel about yourself.  Perhaps someone else is exhibiting behavior that you are really "feeling" but won't allow yourself to exhibit because you are trying to be strong.  Are you afraid for the world to see you as vulnerable, lonely, sad, confused, fearful, angry?  Or are you just too stubborn and/or lazy to work your program?  Or do you believe that YOU can figure things out or fix them - all by yourself!?!  That you "don't need outside help - that YOU are enough"? Well, guess what?  You can't - you're not - and people see right through that anyway - in your angry judgement of others, criticizing and complaining.  Yes!  I said angry - because that is usually how it shows up.  Have you ever heard of "self-righteous"??  Look it up.  We act as though we are annoyed, angry, fed-up that others are not behaving like we think we do or they should - perhaps we are projecting our refusal to be able to control what's really going on with us.

I've said it hundred of times .... WORK your program - work your steps on this - use your tools .  These tools are freely and lovingly given to us!!!  Let go of the obstinance - it will take you down!

My own experience tells me to stop focusing on my own crap - sitting in it, rolling around in it, wallowing in it (can you say self-pity?) - extend a kind thought, word or action to someone who is obviously feeling the same way.  You will be amazed at how much it will help YOU!